Because you know someone repented, or even think they did, why do you expect them to be perfect thereafter? Quit placing this expectation on them. They have not failed; they have done nothing wrong! When you have a foreign object in your body, a sliver of wood, your body tries to extract it, it festers up as an infection. Sometimes the body can dispel it, but typically due to the pain, we extract it, we have to remove it. Although the object is removed, the body must heal, the infection must be treated, the pain slowly dissipates, depending on how big the object was, this could take a significant amount of time.
What’s the difference with trauma and hurt? When we remove the thing or person holding us captive in all areas, in our thoughts, our emotions, our doings, through forgiveness, we must realize that it will take time to allow the cleaning out of the infection. The pain to fully heal, let alone the actions, the thoughts, the emotions that steered and directed them, us, will take time, especially those that have lasted a long time or the duration since it has been a long time. So, QUIT expecting an unrealistic expectation on those who have forgiven. This too applies to you when you forgive.
Matthew 7:1-5 KJV – “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam [is] in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”
Acts 26:20 KJV – “But shewed first unto them of Damascus, and at Jerusalem, and throughout all the coasts of Judaea, and [then] to the Gentiles, that they should repent and turn to God, and do works meet for repentance.”